14 May Your Purpose Must Come Before Your Relationship
Your purpose must come before your relationship.
If a woman who has an abundance of men in her life chooses you, it’s probably because you have some kind of purpose, some kind of direction in your life.
Now what’s going to happen is that you’re going to get into a relationship with this woman, and then at some point, it’s time for you to go to the gym, or it’s time for you to practice your craft, but instead, you’re going to sit down with her and say, “You’re so beautiful, the most beautiful girl in the world, I was going to go and do all of those things, but I love you more than anything, you’re number one.”
She’s then going to look at you and say, “Oh that’s really sweet”, and then lose attraction for you, and leave you.
You want to think of yourself as a rollercoaster. For example, imagine she comes into the theme park, and she sees all these different rollercoasters, and then she sees you. She’ll look at your path and say, “Wow, that’s going to be a fun path to go.” She then comes up to you, gets in for the ride, but instead of going on the journey with her, you say, “You know what, I want to stay here with you, I want to spend time with you, you’re my number one priority.”
What’s going to happen? She’s going to get up and find a new rollercoaster to ride, literally.
Guys, what’s more important to you? ??
— Sabeen from SBS (@SBSDating) May 8, 2017
Every man know’s that his highest purpose in life can’t be reduced to an intimate relationship with the perfect woman.
If you prioritise your relationship over your highest purpose, you will become weak, treat the universe badly, and of course, you will cheat your woman of an authentic man who can offer her his full and undivided presence.
Admit it, if you had to choose one or the other, the perfect intimate relationship or achieving your highest purpose in life, you would choose to succeed at your purpose.
By knowing this, you will relieve the pressure you feel to prioritise your relationship, when in fact, it is not your priority.
Your mission is your priority. Unless you know your mission and have aligned your life to it, you will feel empty, even if you have the perfect relationship. Without your true purpose, your presence in the world will be weakened, as will your presence with your partner.
The next time you notice yourself “giving in” to your woman or postponing your mission in order to spend time with her, stop. Instead, tell her that you love her, but that you can’t ignore your highest purpose.
Tell her that you will spend 30 minutes (or a specific amount of time) with her where she has your absolute attention and total presence. After that you can then return and carry on with your mission.
By doing this, your woman will be more fulfilled with 30 minutes a day of your undivided attention and love, compared to four hours of your weak and distracted presence.
Time that you spend with your woman should be time you really want to be with her, more than anything else. If you’d rather be doing something else, she’ll feel it, and both of you will be dissatisfied.
If you have something to do, don’t wait until you’re 90. If you know your highest purpose, pursue it boldly.
If you don’t know your highest purpose, start by asking yourself these two questions:
Q1: If you had all the time and money in the world, what job would you do?
Q2: If this was the last day on earth, would you still be doing what you’re doing?
Figure out your purpose, and then find the perfect woman who is ready to take that crazy journey with you.