07 Jan How To Get Past The Third Date
How To Get Past The Third Date | Reading time: 2 mins
One of the biggest comments I get is: “Kam, I meet guys but can’t get past the third date.”
Before I share some cool tips, here’s a few reasons why I personally wouldn’t see a girl more than two or three times…
1. Got bored. Pretty but no depth.
2. Don’t want to lead her on. Deep down I know it’s not going anywhere.
3. Wanted one thing. She knew that too.
4. I’m busy but she thinks I’m ignoring her. Princess fit = unattractive.
5. Doesn’t give me what I need for a long term relationship.
Here’s 4 Tips To Get Past The Third date, Without Losing Your Sanity:
1. Be outcome independent
Most girls focus on the outcome. “Is he the one?” This clouds judgement. Instead let go of the outcome FULLY, but have your goal in the back of the mind. Focus on the moment. Presence is key. This alone will sky rocket your success.
2. Play no games
ACTUALLY show him you like him. Put your personality and feelings on the line. Do and say what you want. If it doesn’t go anywhere at least you tried and had a good experience. No games, no regrets.
3. Offer Value
“I thought there was more to this girl, I guess not.” This is BIG. After the first few dates the relationship can go 3 ways: a) Up b) Down or c) Fizzle out. Most go down or fizzle out. Emotions, physicality, intensity, fun, depth, humour, conversation… everything needs to go UP!
4. Zero neediness
It’s almost impossible to not get needy when you like a guy. Neediness is directly correlated to unattractiveness. And guys sense it a mile off. Especially cool guys who are on their path and purpose in life. Instead, invest in yourself.
Try these tips and let me know how you get on.