22 Jul How To Choose The Right Partner (3 Warning Signs)
How To Choose The Right Partner (3 Warning Signs) | Reading time: 2 mins
If you want to know who you should be dating or in a relationship with, I’ll start by saying who you should NOT be dating. Here’s 3 warning signs to look out for…
1. Avoid anybody who exhibits HIGH level of emotional instability
Emotional unstable people do this: You’re driving in a car and there’s some minor stress e.g. someone cuts them off. They freak out for like an hour after it happened. This is considered by evolutionary psychologists as “highly emotionally unstable.” Remember, you never really know who you’re dating til they’re stressed.
2. Avoid anybody who has HIGH levels of Dark Triad
It tests for a) Narcissism b) Machiavellian c) Psychopathy and scores you on a scale of 1-100. Anybody you date ask them to take this test. If they score like 70 or more, run for your life. Here’s a break down:
These people are really charming in the beginning and use charm to get their way. Then after a while they focus on themselves and forget about you.
These people use subtle manipulation. They could be more aggressive and could be doing deceitful things behind your back. If you date this person, don’t have the same bank account.
This is the most dangerous one. These are people who have no remorse and who do bad stuff, and on a brain scanner actually shows they don’t feel bad. E.g. They might steal money and never think about it. Or sleep with your best friend and not even care.
3. Anybody who has LOW levels of Agreeableness
This means finding someone that in general compromises. If you’re around somebody who doesn’t compromise at all you’re going to set yourself up for a disaster.
The key: There is NO research that you can change people unless they’re under 20 years old. Or the younger the better. No one teaches you how to avoid the wrong people. Just pick better. Let psychopaths marry each other and get away from crazy people.
Don’t date anyone who’s: 1. Highly emotionally stable 2. Scores high on Dark Triad 3. Low on agreeable.
P.S Are you unsure who you should spend the rest of your life with? If so, there’s a good chance this will be something you’re interested in…
I want to personally invite you to a very special “Who Should I Be With?” Class I am holding in London on Tuesday 17th April. I’ll talk about how to choose a good love match and help you answer the big question: “Who should I spend my life with?”