11 Feb #1 Awareness: The First Step To A Beautiful Love Life
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When people get this wrong, it’s almost impossible for them to reverse their situation.
I want you to focus extra hard for the next few minutes.
Charlie Munger, the self made billionaire says, “To get what you want, you have to deserve what you want. The world is not yet a crazy enough place to reward a bunch of undeserved people.”
Most people in life are victims of their own makings.
They’re focused on the lottery approach to life.
“Tomorrow’s going to be better than today, just because I think it’s going to be better than today”
They’re waiting. Wishing upon a star.
Whereas the billionaires, people like Charlie Munger are asking, “Is this person deserved of what they want?”
If you want to be a good parent, a good partner, a good husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, if you want a great health and wealth, ask yourself, “Do I deserve it?”.
Here’s the formula I followed…
The first step to a beautiful love life is to deserve a beautiful love life.
That means no shortcuts. And this can be applied to almost anything in life.
If you want to be a millionaire, once you deserve to be a millionaire, and you give the world a little time to catch up, there’ll be millions in your bank account.
If you’re not in the relationship you want, remember what Charlie Munger says, “The world is not yet a crazy enough place to reward a bunch of undeserved people.”
So ask yourself, how big is your deserved factor?
Is it a 1 or is it a 100?
People who deserve a lot, get a lot. People who deserve a great relationship, get a great relationship. People who deserve a great body get a great body.
So the question is, how do you increase your deserved factor?
I can sum this in up in one word: Awareness.
One of my mentors once said to me, “Kam, there’s two types of people in this world: People that make things happen, and people who wonder what happens.”
See, if you’re wondering about life, which most people are, you’re not making things happen.
If you ask people, “How many grams of protein should you eat in a day” or “How many grams of sugar should you eat in a day?”
The average person doesn’t know. They wonder.
You can say that their awareness of life is low.
This is the foundational for us to know.
Whenever I meet new people, I always look for one factor. I look for awareness.
Awareness is the quickest path to increase your chance of a great relationship, great health, and great wealth.
My mentor always says to me, “Kam, there’s a time to stop and smell the roses, and that time isn’t now.”
If you’re not making things happen, you’re wondering.
My suggestion to you, the first, the simplest, is to focus on massive awareness of life.
If you want to succeed, you’re going to have to be focused on the now.
Don’t get me wrong, there is a time to let your mind wander and not focus. I didn’t say there’s never a time to stop and smell the roses. There is a time, but the time isn’t now.
Awareness is a factor we must possess.
You and I must continually be on an upward path to deserve more and more. If you want to be in better shape, what are the things that make you deserve a better shape?
Look, do you want to live in a world where the laws and rules of physics don’t apply? I don’t.
How unfair would this world be if you went to the gym 7 days a week, ate healthy, and your body just stays fat. And a person who eats at McDonalds every day, magically becomes healthy.
I wouldn’t want to live in that world. I like rules. And I want a world with enough rules so that I can plan my life.
So for health, if you say to me, “Kam, all you gotta do to be healthy and get in good shape is: 1) cut out processed food 2) eat more vegetables 3) move and workout 4) find some sport that I like.
If that’s what I have to do to basically maintain health, I like those rules.
It’s time to make a change, and it’s time to deserve more.
When it comes to wealth, you might ask yourself, “Why does Bill Gates have 75 billion dollars when most of the world doesn’t?”
What I will say is that he has added an immense amount of value to the world. He brought computers to the world. Him and Steve Jobs. From the age of 12 to 31, Bill Gates focused down. From age 20 to age 30 he didn’t take one day off. Not even one. I think he deserves the respect and the money he has.
I talk about my rich friends and my poor friends. My successful friends and my unsuccessful friends. The difference is, for the most part, my unsuccessful friends don’t deserve the success my successful friends have.
The world is not always fair, but it’s a lot more fair than most people think.
What I’m saying is the world is fair in the sense that, people who deserve more, usually get more.
Anytime you’re hitting a wall in life, don’t start by talking about how unfair the world is and how you’re just a victim of circumstance.
Ask yourself, do I deserve a great relationship? Do I deserve a great body? Do I deserve great wealth?
I want you to play a bigger part in the world.
I want you to have more skills.
Perseverance, patience, wisdom, focus, awareness. These are the skills you need. Start with awareness.
The ability to know when it’s time to stop and smell the roses. And when it’s not.
If I want a great relationship, I’ll start by deserving one.
If I want more money in my bank account, I’ll start by deserving more.
If I want great health both physically and mentally, I’ll start by deserving it.
To get what you want, you have to deserve what you want.
You’re not in competition with the world, you’re in competition with yourself.
I can deserve more than I have now. So can you. And that’s my goal for you.
To increase your deserved factor, start by increasing your awareness factor.
I don’t want you to wonder about life, I want to you start making things happen.
Each day, as Charlie Munger says, go to bed a little wiser.
Step by step you can get ahead. Step by step you can do these things. I’m telling you. I’ve done it, and so can you.
Stop smelling the roses and come back to reality.
Q1: What’s your plan to start deserving a beautiful love life?
Q2: What’s your plan to start deserving great health, wealth, and happiness?
Q3: What are some practical things you can do to increase your awareness?
Q4: On a scale of 1-10, what is your deserved/awareness factor right now, and how can you start to increase it?
Every day, go to bed a little wiser. That deserved factor will increase. You’ll start getting closer to your goal.
Success will start coming to you.