07 Oct 4 Steps To Attract Your Mr. Right – A Newbie Guide
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Before I talk about How To Attract Your Mr. Right, let me just say this…
According to Albert Einstein, doing the same thing over and over again, and expecting different results is the definition of insanity. So don’t do that okay.
The reason why most girls do the same thing over and over again is because they simply don’t know what else to do. One of the biggest comments I get is, “Kam, I’ve tried everything!” Trust me, you haven’t. I’m certain of that. Most girls I meet have tried the same few things over and over and over and over again, expecting different results.
I hope you get my point here. Don’t waste another minute doing the same shit that’s just not working for you.
I want to share a basic guide with you on how to attract your Mr. Right. It’s a fresh new perspective and I hope you give it a real stab. It’s not complicated at all. It’s simple, easy and very practical.
How to attract the right guy for you is a LOT easier than you think. So let’s quickly go over these 4 steps.
Here’s a 4 Step Newbie Guide To Attract Your Mr. Right:
Step 1: You don’t attract what you want
This is hard for a lot of girls to REALLY understand: You don’t attract what you want, you attract what you are. This is the most fundamental success principle you must understand. Most girls think that they are just entitled to a cool, fun guy who’s on his path and purpose in life. Understand: Those guys aren’t just going to commit to any girl. So the first step to attract your Mr Right is to focus on yourself. Your health, wealth, relationships, and happiness. Have goals in all of these four areas. You will attract the most amazing guys when you do this.
Step 2: Work out your wants and needs
The next thing is to know what you actually want and need from a relationship. Most girls think they know this, but 95% of girls I meet are misguided and undecided on this basic step. Make two columns: on one side write down your wants, and on the other side write down yours needs. Your wants are things you are willing to compromise on. But your needs are the one or two things you absolutely cannot live without. This will also change over time. What you needed in a relationship when you were 20 years old will be different to when you’re 25, 30, 35 etc
Step 3: Start filtering
Okay so now that you’re feeling good, got your goals in place, and know what you want and need in a relationship, the next thing is to start filtering. And filter fast. Most girls just meet one guy, invest all their time and energy into him, and three months later it’s over. Don’t put all of your eggs in one basket so soon. Instead, you want to start by talking to lots of guys. The reason I say this is because what you want and need on paper, is not always what you want in reality. So the idea is to get a feel for what you like and don’t like. You can then filter out guys, and have cool guys cycling through your life until you meet a really cool guy who you want to take it to the next level with. This takes a lot of energy, but remember you also want to make it an enjoyable experience to, so have fun.
Step: 4 Walk away and change on a dime
One of my mentors said to me, “Kam, it doesn’t matter how shiny the car is, if it only has three wheels walk away.” How true those words are man. As you narrow your filter, you will naturally start to cut off other guys and invest in the one guy who you have the most chemistry and connection with. You will probably end up dating that guy for for six months and it might not go anywhere, but if you’ve had an enjoyable experience together then it’s not wasted time at all. It’s only wasted time if you knew you should have just walked away from the start. In that case, you’ve made a mistake. And you don’t want to be making too many mistakes.
Give these 4 steps a go and let me know how you get on.
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